This morning, as I was trying to reply to an email, Kali was demanding skritches by headbutting my hands, as she does. It made me think about my local loved ones, and how often I am the one to go approach one of them with a verbal or nonverbal request for attention, vs how often they approach me, and compare that with my memories of past me and that same equation then.
I don’t know why it has changed, but on the attention I need vs attention requested by others scale, I appear to have become much more self sufficient than when I was young.
Once, I needed multipile partners, just to get enough attention at all (yes, attention, not sex; my sex drive has always been low). Now, I don’t feel I have time to give my loved ones all of the attention they crave (let alone sex, that drive is still low).
Yes the cats count as loved ones in this discussion. Luckiy, they were both fixed as kittens, so don’t want sex from anyone, and certainly not us.
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